Are you struggling with getting him to commit? Have you been with a man for a long time and still waiting for a commitment? How long have you been sitting, waiting, both patiently and impatiently, for him to step up to the plate and offer you the commitment you feel you have earned and deserve? If you’re dating a new man, and not yet gotten a commitment, and are worried he will never give you one? Are you trying to make getting him to commit your number one priority in this relationship? Well slow down a bit. You may be going about this the wrong way.
Many women believe getting him to commit is something they can earn over time. Sure, that theory holds true for some men, but not all. You could be with a man for over TWENTY years and he could still not be ready, willing, or able to give you a commitment. But they hold out, believing they are meant to be together so hold out waiting for the commitment fairy to grant their wish.
No one wants to put time, energy and effort into a relationship when they are never going to get what they want. A commitment helps propel a relationship forward and allow it to grow and evolve. Getting him to commit does not necessarily mean marriage. Celebrities Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell have a committed relationship but are not married. You could be married, yet your partner is not honoring that commitment and is being unfaithful. Commitment means different things to different people.
We all need to seriously think about exactly what kind of commitment we need in a relationship. Is it the promise of monogamy, or marriage (or both)? What kind of time frame do you feel is reasonable for you to expect that commitment? Is he already committed to someone else? Obviously he doesn’t really have a commitment to you or the other woman if he has you both in his life.
Women tend to stick it out for years, because they feel if they leave, then they wasted all that time. Unfortunately they fail to realize they could be wasting even more time because getting him to commit is never going to come. Some women are afraid to push the envelope and demand a commitment. There is a right and a wrong way to do that. There is also a right time and place to do that as well.