Love can make you weak at the knees, but what if your love is making you weak? Love should give you strength, not make you feel downtrodden and depressed. Love should make you feel empowered, not powerless. When you love someone and the relationship is happy and healthy, you should draw strength from that relationship. You should feel you can accomplish anything so long as your romantic partner is by your side. The one you love should help to propel you forward, not hold you back. Love, with the right person, should make you feel more confident about yourself. Love should restore a healthy ego. Love should not make you feel insecure, scared and like you are walking on eggshells.
If your relationship is not happy and healthy, your ego can take a direct hit. When you find yourself doing things that you know you shouldn’t, allowing behavior that you shouldn’t, and being mistreated and taken for granted, your love is making you weak. When you feel weak you withdraw into yourself. You become less outgoing and are afraid to take risks and chances. Your whole outlook can change from the wrong relationship. If your relationship is making you weak, you may carry around a sense of gloom and doom, attracting negative energy to all areas of your life.
Every time you let the one you love establish a pattern of behavior without contesting it and pushing back, they win. You have set in motion a dynamic where they always have things their way, and you always have to sacrifice your own happiness for theirs. You lose, and you feel like a loser. They win, feel like a winner and want to keep winning. When you have a strong relationship, you feel strong. When you have a weak relationship, love is making you weak. But how can you change a relationship that is in tatters when you have no strength, energy or personal power left? How can you fight for a relationship when you feel so beaten down that you have no chance of winning?
The bottom line is if love is making you weak, one of three things has to, and will happen. Either nothing will be done and the relationship will end, you will do something about it and it will get stronger, or you will do something about it, and it will end. But you will come out the other side a stronger person. Which will it be for you? If you do nothing, your relationship will end. You need to do something in order for this relationship to survive. But what is it exactly that you need to do? The longer you leave it hoping by some miracle it will get better, the further it will deteriorate. Take the bull by the horns and us to work with you to get your strength back and reclaim your personal power.
Originally posted on October 7, 2020 @ 2:00 PM